Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of affairs

How to be happy—that is the question. That is the question. Not just a superficial cheerfulness, but a deep and consistent sense of joy and peace. A solid unshakable inner sense that is not at the mercy of external circumstances or what others say and do. A joy that radiates from inside outwards, bringing light to others as well as to ourselves.

Life offers us possibilities of happiness in every moment

My starting point is the belief—actually the belief choice—that life offers us possibilities of peace and happiness in every moment. And that it offers you only those kinds of possibilities. Our thoughts and underlying core beliefs determine our minds’ openness to those possibilities, its ability to realize those possibilities in feelings and experiences of happiness and well-being.

But our beliefs can limit our ability to experience happiness

Our everyday beliefs—the beliefs that nearly everyone merely takes for granted—actually close our minds off to those possibilities. These beliefs actually introduce fear and conflict into the very fabric of our awareness, so that every experience seems to contain an underlying threat. Sometimes this sense of threat is largely subconscious. Other times, we are acutely aware of fear and conflict, a sense of unease and unhappiness.

As long as we unquestioningly maintain those kinds of core beliefs, we think that we simply have to settle for temporary and tenuous moments of happiness here and there. Some of us have more of them, and some of us have less. But we think that it is “simply the way things are,” “simply a fact of human life” that you have to take the bad with the good.

When our core beliefs have limited and distorted the very fabric of our awareness, then no matter what we do, no matter how many affirmations and visualizations we perform every day, no matter how many tips and techniques and cheerful reminders we use, our ability to be deeply and consistently and perfectly happy will be limited.

Our minds will be literally unable to feel and experience deep and lasting peace and joy. Those underlying core beliefs will always sabotage our happiness sooner or later. And since these underlying beliefs are subconscious—because who would deliberately sabotage their own happiness?—we are unaware of our role in all of this.

There is another way

This website looks at those current underlying core beliefs that we all share, and how they sabotage our ability to be happy. And it explores an alternative set of core beliefs that opens our minds to the possibility of deep and sustained joy and peace.This entire way of thinking is based on a foundational principle that I call the principle of one power. I encourage you to take a look at  the series on principle of one power, since this principle is the basis for most of the other posts.

Yes, all of those tips and techniques and cheerful reminders we use to make ourselves happy, all of those positive affirmations and visualizations do have a value. But only if they are practiced from a state of mind that is fundamentally open to perfect happiness. Otherwise they will always be just stopgap measures, just plugging holes in the dike without ever doing anything about the floodwaters beyond. Here’s the “secret”: we make those floodwaters for ourselves, and we can unmake them.

Happiness is a state of mind,
not a state of affairs.

Enjoy the posts. Have fun exploring the menu (top of the page).

Have fun here. There’s all sorts of things to read and to do.  Blog posts on happiness. Blog posts on A Course in Miracles. Practical exercises and guided meditations. Links to other fantastic sites I’ve discovered. A few laughs. And more being added every week. And remember that the real purpose and value of this site for you is the extent to which it can help you to actually feel more happiness and experience more well-being in your own life.

The real heart of this site is in the blog posts or articles which are written at least once a week. Read through them, Explore the archives. If you like what you see, subscribe to the blog and have each new one delivered to your e-mail or Google page or in whatever form works for you. Subscribing is free and easy, and you can always unsubscribe any time you choose. And I never share your e-mail address with anyone else.

And please leave your comments and suggestions, your stories of your unique journey to happiness. It’s in this back and forth dialogue that this blog truly becomes alive for all of us. And if you would like to contact me directly, e-mail me at wyoder2@gmail.com or simply click here to send me an e-mail now.

Finally,  if you like these ideas and find them valuable for yourself, I encourage you to read my book The Happy Mind for a more complete and in-depth exploration of this way of thinking. And you might also enjoy my previous book Lighted Clearings for the Soul.

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Lorraine Haley March 6, 2010 at 8:21 pm


I only tapped into a few of your messages, but they are very profound.

Can’t wait to check out the rest of them.



Donna DeVane March 22, 2010 at 7:56 am

You have been such a delight in supporting my blog that I just had to come read yours.
Thank you so much for sharing your joy, wisdom, insights and love.

You are so appreciated,


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